Grief is… many things.
It can be overwhelming, liberating, heartbreaking, a catalyst for change, and debilitating.
Grief doesn’t always feel how we think it is going to feel.
We focus on Death. The grim reaper. The sullen character of graphic novels. But the true one to watch for is Death’s demanding sibling Grief.
She demands your attention, your full attention. If you try to distract yourself or busy yourself with the comings and goings of life, she may offer you patience for a time, but sooner or later she will stop you in your tracks. You will have to pay her dues.
Full emotional onslaught.
For those that have not experienced the full range of human emotion, they have not yet met Grief. For she will show you the true bounty that we are capable of feeling – the deepest pit of despair and heartache, coupled with love so expansive and true. It is within the contradictions that we truly know the duality of human existence.
And Grief hits us in many forms. Loss of job or career (even if by choice), moving to a new city/ province/country, saying goodbye to friends/family, relationships ending, divorce, making change in our lives (getting into shape, going to school, doing inner work), changes in our identity, loss of identity, cultural loss, oppression, being treated unfairly/unjustly/wrongly, finding our truth, death of an animal or person, death of a loved one, loss of hope.
Grief is about the change that happens around us every day in small and large ways. The more space we allow Grief in our lives, the more we are able to learn from her.
Listen to her.
And in keeping, we open our Healing Circle to give space to our grief in all its forms. We bear witness to each other’s grief, we hold it and honour it, and in so doing we hope hear its wisdom and move through this gateway of transformation and allow Grief to usher us into a new way of being with Self and the world around us.
December can be a challenging month for many of us who have lost loved ones or are isolated from family or friends or just going through a tough time in our lives. And so I offer this time each week in December as an opportunity to come together in community, in a Healing Circle.
Beautiful things can happen in community.
We will meet each Saturday in December (Dec 2, 9, 16, 23, and 30th) from 11 am to 12:30 pm at Octopus Garden Yoga Centre (967 College Street). The cost is pay-what-you-can from $5 to $20. Space is limited so I do ask that you RSVP ahead of time to make sure there is space.